Behavior Videos

Part of life’s curriculum includes learning behavioral expectations: individual, interpersonal and social. For the child with autism spectrum disorder (ASD), Asperger’s syndrome, or any child with developmental delays, these basic expectations are drastically hindered when the environment is dominated by behavioral challenges. These online video lessons show you how to gain back control while avoiding arguments, and anticipating your child’s reaction to be fully prepared for any misbehavior. You’ll be able to redirect your child without raising your voice and feeling overwhelmed, focus directly on the problem, and use a positive and confidence-building approach rather than relying solely on punishment. You’ll learn how to more effectively target the right behaviors so your day is easier, and your positive relationship with your child is restored and enhanced.

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This excerpt is from the first video in the series, “Assuming Control”.

Apple Tree’s Top Ten Behavioral Strategies

Apple Tree’s Top Ten Behavioral Strategies are taught on the videos in this series for your success in properly managing your child’s behavior. Using these techniques will go a long way toward improving your relationship with your child, and overall family harmony. These strategies are taught in detailed fashion in our video lessons, and can be reviewed in detail below.


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Assuming Control

  • Control based in Action/Relationship
  • No repeated explanations
  • Project self-confidence
  • Business-like
  • Give direction, don’t make requests


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Avoiding Arguments and Emotion

  • Cut-off communication if child becomes belligerent
  • Avoid reasoning with child
  • Give direction and walk away
  • Communicate: It’s your problem, not mine


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Avoiding Lecturing and Pestering

  • Brief and to the point
  • Humor
  • No emotion except humor (be the James Bond of parents)
  • Don’t explain, lecture, or pester
  • Relying on consequences: how to use counting regimens (1-2-3), time-out, loss of privilege, and behavior
  • Charts; and pro’s and con’s of each option


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Focusing on the Problem

  • Be specific (what you want, and what you like)
  • No emotion, model self-confidence
  • Don’t focus on or label child’s “attitude” – focus on behavior


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Avoiding Distractions

  • Turn off TV, video games
  • Remove siblings
  • Remove siblings, friends
  • No distractions during confrontations and chores


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Using Positive Praise and Emotion

  • Catch them being good
  • Whisper (softer and closer approach)
  • You get what you praise
  • Attention-Tank (fill child’s attention-tank with positive praise)


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Self-Disclosing

  • Use judiciously and cautiously (“you make me so frustrated…”)
  • I-Feel Statements (“I feel frustrated when you ignore me…”)
  • Tell them how you feel (“that’s disappointing”), don’t show them (control your emotional response)
  • When I was your age…
  • Sharing past indiscretions
 


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Role Modeling Appropriate Problem-Solving

  • “What you do speaks so loudly, I can’t hear what you say”
  • Words and emotion are your enemy (brief, no emotion)
  • Role model effective problem-solving


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Picking Your Battles

  • Be flexible
  • Prioritize (safety issues first, then aggression, destruction of property, defiance, then annoying behaviors last)
  • Is it worth it?
  • Don’t give the direction if not up the challenge


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Effectively Managing Your Teen

  • How do you communicate with your teen?
  • Setting rules and boundaries with your teen
  • Clearly explain the rules and expectations